So this September 10th is ‘World Suicide Prevention day’. You may have seen posts, articles, stories etc on the news, social media, posters. But what does it mean exactly?
The idea is to raise awareness of suicides, attempted suicides, whatever the reasons behind it being and what lies underneath; mental health and well being issues, circumstances and trials. There are many reasons people may contemplate or carry out suicide. But for each individual the reasons and situations are different.
Some people believe this to be an act of selfishness. In some ways it can be. But if we really think about it and open up our minds to the actual thinking behind it, it can only mean that that individual is desperate, at the end of their line of resilience, exhausted, fed up, had enough, the list goes on.
And, yes, I am speaking from experience. Only one or two people in my whole life know this. But back in 2003 i attempted it. I’m not going to tell you how, or even why because that is not what this is about. If you are wanting to ask questions or needing to know more, for one reason or another then you can email me. Or wait for the book to be published. (Still not giving away the title, until its ready to be released. But the prologue is my story, my testimony, how i experienced mental health and how I overcame it. You can read a bit on this here: The Road to Healing. I’m not saying I don’t have down days, but I am human). I also used to self harm and that was on and off for 12 years of my life. But my point is, you can never know what someone is going through, most people hide it and don’t actually want anyone to know how they are feeling. But please note, not everyone who self harms is suicidal and not everyone who is suicidal self- harms. Everyone is different.
But what i’m trying to say is that anyone, you never know who, may be going through depression and challenging times. But these can be overcome.
I hear you ask…How?
Well, for me, first I had to realise my mindset and the desperation.
That is the first step, realisation is the beginning of overcoming. And it is OK not to be OK but when it becomes more than that, that is when you need to recognise that it’s also OK to get help…
But, you need to admit to yourself that you need help. From this you need to recognise that what you are going through and how you are feeling is not embarrassing or anything to be ashamed of. But you do need to be brave and address this. You are not alone!
Next, is stepping out of the boat. Reach out to someone you trust, your G.P, church leader, or local mental health services; which you can find online(see below).
By taking this step you are on your way to overcoming your fears. The next thing to do is see it through. Go to any counselling sessions you are offered, keep in contact with the person you trust, take, accept and see through any advice and support your given.
And then, you will be on your way to recovery.
By, no means am i saying any of this is easy. IT IS NOT! But it’s the start, and just remember if i can do it (and by the way, I didn’t think i could, I felt so alone and helpless and desperate and just wanted to give up on life, because it felt like there was nothing else i could do, everything was out of my hands and control and it felt like this was the last thing i could do. Turns out, i was wrong and by taking these steps I realised it wasn’t the last thing I could do. But by taking these steps, it was the first thing I could do and was the beginning, not the end, of the next chapter of my journey) What i’m trying to say: YOU CAN DO IT TOO!
It’s also not just personal. This awareness is to realise that anyone could be suffering with their mental health, contemplating suicide. And it’s not always obvious, you just don’t know how someone is feeling, even if they seem happy. That can be a front, a mask. Take Robin Williams, for example. Such a sad story!! You can click on the image below to read more about him.
So, lets just be aware and be kind.
Websites and services
1. Samaritains Phone number- 116 123
3. NHS services
Or type into a search engine “Mental Health Services in your area”.
If you need any help or support please don’t hesitate to contact me.